Why does my crush stare at me?
I get this a lot not just in emails, but from women asking for advice in person a lot. And it’s the same darn question…….. “Why does my crush stare at me?” Sometimes it’s not even their crush, but that person stares at them. Maybe, that person looks away when they are caught.
And this goes both ways for men and woman, as both genders do it quite a lot.
One girl wrote:
So there’s a guy who stares at me every time we pass each other. Our eyes would meet and we would just hold them there till I would look away. He sometimes looks starstruck when he watches me. He greeted me lightly twice a while back but I got extremely shy to even reply. And other times he would Look at me then ignore me. This started a couple months back when I first noticed him staring at me.
What does this mean? Why does he do this?
I am guilty of having done this many times actually in the past. In fact, I did this a few months ago and had to kinda slap myself to realize I was being stupid. It’s sometimes good to make eye contact to create a connection with the person. You’re trying to alert them that you have noticed them. That’s when you want to approach them and start a conversation. In my case I got so lost in her eyes and the truth is I liked that girl. So I can’t help but stare and I always go for the eyes, because to me it feels like I am communicating with her some how.
It’s hard to explain, but you probably get the feeling when he is staring into your eyes starstruck as you say… that’s how I am with this 1 girl. I get lost in her eyes… Now, as a guy this normally doesn’t happen very easily. I think women notice eye contact better than men do, we just stare not knowing it. But women can sense their own body language a lot better. This guy likes you, but he might be a bit shy and doesn’t know how to approach or know how to start a conversation with you. Deep down this guy wants to TALK to you and get to know you. But either he’s scared, because you might not feel the same or that he just is a bit shy and doesn’t know how to talk to you.
He might even be nervous, I mean when we like someone or are attracted we become nervous and don’t know how to react sometimes. I think it’s the fact that we ALL want to put in a AWESOME first impression, so you become less relaxed and more stressed.
Now if you don’t like this guy and he’s staring at you. All you can do is ignore him and never give him a glance again. Sure it will be a rude gesture, but that’s a way to let the guy know you are not interested in him at all. Making further glances just makes it seems like you are interested in him especially if he catches you looking.
But he definitely likes you girl…
And, I would say if he doesn’t talk to you. Then maybe you should talk to him, as shy guys or maybe reserved guys need more signs. If you talk to him it’s going to let him pickup on the fact that you are also interested. And, that’s when he may get comfortable enough to open up and even ask you out.
He is shy and waiting for you to make a move. If you are attracted to him make moves. It doesn’t mean you have to ask him out, but you need to drop the hint or be more straight forward. Some guys just don’t see the signs very easily, so you just got to be a bit more clear.
Best of luck!